Friday, July 23, 2010

Should I Let Her Pick?

Remember the chair I got for Cricket's room? I still haven't recovered it. It is not totally my fault. I want it covered in a yellow and white fabric, Cricket wants an orange and white fabric.


The rest of her room is blue and white. I would love yellow to be the accent color. She would love for it to be orange.

I do like blue and orange. Just not as much as blue and yellow.


But it is her room. And it is just one chair and maybe some pillows.


What do you think? Let kids make the decisions in their own rooms or guide them and help them to see the wisdom of our choices?

Pictures from: Material Girls, Girl Meets Glamour, Mark Cutler

42 comments:

  1. Definitely let her choose!
    :)
    Cheers!
    lottie

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  2. I say let her pick! It's not like she's too far off in her color choice! Maybe you could pick out a few fabrics, yellow and orange, and see which one she chooses, like a pre-screening process ;).

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  3. This is such a great question that all of us moms face. We definitely have our own opinions on the way things should look and yet we want to cultivate our children's creativity and confidence in their decision making abilitities. Personally, I think that the blue and orange look good. That said, I was just over at Kayce's house and she is currently re-doing one of her daughter's rooms in turquoise and yellow and it is pretty fabulous. I am not much help am I???

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  4. Let her have her orange!! If it were an odd color combo, I'd say no, but you'll find just the right thing, and it'll look fab. xo

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  5. You choose 3 fabrics she chooses the one. She feels like she is doing it, but ultimately it is your good taste.

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  6. I definitely agree with what some other ladies said. Why don't you pick out a few options and let her pick from those. Reupholstering is an expensive kind of thing to just let a child pick whatever they want, BUT you know it would probably mean the world to her and she'd brag to all her friends that she got to help decorate her totally awesome room!

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  7. Let her choose! She will feel so proud of having a say-so in re-designing her room. Give her a few different options. I LOVE the blue, orange and yellow together...sooo my style!!

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  8. My mother never let me pick and I still resent her for it.

    Not really, but sounds like the kid has style. I'm all for orange!

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  9. Oh, please let her pick! When you let her pick, you are saying that you respect her choices, even when they are not what you would choose. Show her that it is okay not to agree with your style, your "wisdom". When kids can choose freely they CREATE their own lives rather than make their lives a reaction to what someone told them was "right".

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  10. Yes, because she is the one spending most of the time in the room and you don't want her hating a part of her room and if you let her choose that is one less thing she can hold over you when she's older.

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  11. First of all, if you know of some good orange fabrics that are masculine enough for little boys, PLEASE let me know. I'm defering to my best guy-- it's his choice of accent color in his new (grey and white) room.

    I say at her age-- let her choose the colors, and you be in charge of making her choices look good. Isn't that what good designers do, anyway?:)

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  12. Let her choose for sure. I loved decorating my room when I was a kid. Then if she changes her mind later she will learn a valuable lesson!

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  13. Absolutely let her choose. You will raise her self-esteem and she will love her room at the same time. Win/Win.

    PS: And orange is a lovely color...

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  14. tough one although i did let Ellie pick that insane green for her room:) KJ's room is blue and orange and I used that same duvet to make a faux roman.

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  15. Yeah, I like AppleTree's suggestion. I'd say let her choose. The chair is a much smaller touch than, say, a wall color. My son wanted orange or purple walls (Clemson U.) a few years ago. Sorry, I just had to say no.

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  16. I'm on board with everyone else. I love blue and orange together! That's the scheme I have going in my son's room (albeit with a more boyish spin). I love Hable Construction's beads in orange (I think it's featured in Lee Kleinhelter's stepdaughter's room above, except in blue). And since it's an accent, it can be changed more easily. My 8-year-old daughter has requested more green in her light pink, hot pink and green room, so I need to make some adjustments as well. Can't wait to see the results of that fabulous chair!

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  17. Let her choose! I think it's vital for her to be in a room that she loves and has helped make decisions about. Creates self-esteem too!
    You can use yellow in other areas of the house and both of you will be happy. :-)

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  18. I could talk your ear off on the subject! I have just finished doing rooms for 3 of my children. There were LOTS of things that I vetoed. I do feel like this is your house so you should have the final say. However I am sure that you want her to love it. So if you can do orange in a way that you would like then I would.

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  19. Oh, please, let her pick! It is her room. She will take ownership, be more inclined to keep it clean etc., if she feels that the colors are hers. Besides, all that, orange, and blue are a stunning color combo! Much more playful, and a little more artsy, than the more typical yellow and blue. I love your photos of the orange and blue rooms, just gorgeous!

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  20. Great question! Liam wants his room green, and I have been wanting to keep the home neutral...so we are compromising---painting a huge green stripe! Mom happy. Kid happy.

    I think they should have a say in their surroundings, but we should agree with it. I think age plays into it, too. But I agree with Nancy...she may take more pride in her room and want to clean it more. There's a chance, anyway!

    Interesting post!
    Julie

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  21. I so agree with Robin in an earlier post. Let her pick the color. It is part of growing up and learning to make choices. My daughter is 21 years old, and just newly married (last week!). I decorated her nursery, then when she grew out of her nursery, I re-decorated that same room when she was about 3 yrs. old. The next time it had to be re-decorated, she picked all colors, and themes herself. It was a learning and 'growing up' process, but for me, mostly, since I realize that the hardest thing for me was realizing that she was growing up and becoming independent.

    Blue and Orange, such a happy combination :)

    Miriam.

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  22. ask yourself this: is she a child or a trophy? Child's bedroom or show room? let her pick. You'll have plenty of time to redecorate after she has left for college.

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  23. I would let her pick, even though it would be tough. With your great taste and guidance I am sure that the room will be terrific.
    Your yellow & blue loving blog fan,
    Colleen

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  24. I think it's more personal preference as opposed to wisdom/lack of wisdom. Why not make slipcovers that can be changed out later as her tastes change? Many designers credit their mothers for letting them help decorate their own rooms or the entire house at an early age. She'll learn both from her successes and mistakes. And getting to choose with let her know you have confidence in her. If she's not happy with it, let her know it's not the end of the world and you still love her. If you pick your battles, this one is probably not worth fighting (I don't mean you're actually fighting).

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  25. That first little girl's room is one of my all-time favorites.

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  26. I do not know her age... but she looks old enough to pick.
    Let her at it : )

    Dee

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  27. I think she will pick well. She has grown up in an artistic home...Can't wait to see what she picks:)

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  28. When I was pregnant and didn't know if I was going to have a boy or girl, I tore out that very first image to use as inspiration for a boy's room...loved the crisp white/light blue/orange combo. I have no idea what happened to that tear-out so I was thrilled to come across this again. My friend is about to have a baby & needs to have her boy/girl twins share a room for about two years and needed ideas for a unisex room. I forwarded this pic. Thank you!

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  29. Wow. what interesting comments! I love these posts that so many people have opinions about. I say let her choose, especially since orange looks good with the other colors. If it was something that didn't look good, I might say come up with alternative choices all together and let her choose from those. In this situation, let her have it her way. I am using some orange in the room I am doing for my big girl too!

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  30. I just clicked on comments not knowing what to expect but I am pleasantly surprised at the loving comments. I say let the young lady have her orange cause I love it too and for so many of the other reasons. When I was her age I adored fixing up my bedroom. Every 2 weeks or so Mom came home to a new furniture arrangement in my room! She never said much but when I decided to paint my room marigold (golden yellow) on the walls with Zinnia(orange) trim it was OK with her. I painted it myself and was so prond of it.
    ~ ~Ahrisha~ ~

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  31. I say let her pick! Blue and orange are gorgeous together and it is her room after all.... ;)

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  32. I agree with so many as well...narrow down the options to some orange fabrics that you love...and then let her pick.

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  33. Let her choose for sure, especially since it's still a good color combo. Helps foster creativity in her.

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  34. hahah i SO feel for you on this!! i know a time will come in my kids rooms for them to make the decisions = ahhhhhhhh!!! ;)

    but totally, let her pick. it's awesome that she cares :)
    xoxo,
    lauren

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  35. I was blessed with a mom who let me decorate my room however I wanted...it was never super sophisticated but I was always so proud that I did it...I say let her have that option. Her taste could ultimately blow you away!

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  36. i dont think you could go wrong with either color combo. i love both.

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  37. My husband and I came across a similar situation, and we let our boys choose in the end. Your girl's room is very nice, and I think that yellow would look great too as a contrast with the other orange accents, plus yellow is in the "color neighborhood" of orange ;) but in the end, she needs to be satisfied with her own space, you know?

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  38. I didnt read all the other comments so someone might have already suggested this, but what if you pre-picked out like 4-5 fabrics that you like and could live with and then let her pick from those. That way you get something you like and she feels like she helped in the design.

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  39. "mother knows best"....I lived by this and I turned out just fine and always had nice things. She'll learn from this, I think it's okay and she'll have her own house someday. At which point, she can make her own decisions.

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  40. Is the top photo of your daughter's room? I love, love, love the paint color on the dresser. Do you know the color?

    On the subject of your question, I got to choose how my room was decorated when I was 10 or so. My parents, however, insisted that because my room faced west and north that I had to use "warm colors." I chose pink carpeting and soft yellow walls. Years later, I still love the walls, but the carpeting is horrid.

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